So I go to my local watering hole after work quite a lot and talk with a lot of people that I like and I enjoy hanging out with.
But they all have the same shit to talk about. I’m not talking about if they’re having some issue in their lives….that’s different. But it’s all the same shit…just a different day. Like me.
My friends, and the people who know me ask me the same questions and I ask them the same. I am absolutely interested in what they have to say but I don’t feel like I have much to say. (Of course the very few of you who know me all the way through, don’t count.)
Until someone who I DON’T normally talk to starts talking to me. Of course, I’m speaking specifically about someone. And I know him but we’ve never really talked much besides at my work.
Well, he sat himself down and we got talking and the next thing I know the bar’s empty. It was absolutely refreshing to talk to someone that I could talk to that didn’t already assume shit about me. And seemed to be interested in what I had to say…and likewise.
So maybe my problem IS here………maybe I SHOULD move. To a place where people don’t assume that they know me.
It was just nice to talk to someone who seemed to want to know me…and not just how my day was…without being biased. And vice versa, maybe.
I’m sure people look at me sitting at the bar like I prefer to sit by myself. And some people come up and try to make small talk with me, like we did last week. But they don’t seem interested in learning more.
Maybe I’m not shut off like people have accused me of…….maybe they are not asking the right questions.
I’m not going to give you the innards of me just because we say hi and make small talk a couple times a week. It doesn’t necessarily take time on a clock but just time to be more interested in me as a person than in what I did this week. Ask about my likes, my dislikes, my SHIT………then if I tell you and ask you questions of the same back? Make me laugh not about something that just happened but something that happened to you when……
Then it’s a good start to getting to know each other. That’s when you start becoming my friend.
